Trainings
Staying Where It’s Hard
Conditions, Not Character—For Therapists and Relationships
I offer trainings for therapists and workshops for couples and individuals.
Both are grounded in the same question:
What makes it possible for people to come closer—to themselves and to each other—without forcing change?
Much of what brings people into therapy or relationship work is not a lack of insight or effort. It is the accumulation of conditions that made closeness difficult, costly, or unsafe.
These trainings focus on those conditions.
For therapists
Most therapists are trained to track emotion, meaning, and behavior.
In practice, something else often organizes the room.
Clients speak clearly, yet feel far away.
Sessions move forward, yet something essential does not shift.
Moments that appear flat, resistant, or confusing quietly shape the entire process.
My work focuses on these moments.
It draws from years of experience with Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), and somatic approaches—but has moved beyond any single model.
The emphasis is not on technique, but on orientation:
- how to recognize distance and presence in real time
- how to understand mistrust as an intelligent response
- how to work with collapse and non-movement without forcing activation
- how to stay with intensity without needing to control it
- how to release responsibility for outcomes and return to conditions
This is an experiential training. It is designed for therapists who want to expand how they see, and how they respond, when their existing frameworks reach their limits.
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Upcoming Trainings
Better Together at Ghost Ranch, Abiquiu, NM, February 25-March 2, 2025
An EXPERIENTIAL workshop on integrating complementary experiential models, eft, ifS, and PSIP
Lori Marchak, ICEEFT Supervisor and Certified IFS Therapist, with Jenny Fiebig, IFS Trainer
EFT and IFS are complementary rather than competing models of psychotherapy, each with their own uniquely powerful insights and methods to share. This workshop will clarify and celebrate the different therapist stances articulated in the models, and a conceptual and experiential framework for weaving them together.