Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), developed by Dr. Sue Johnson and her colleagues, is largely responsible for transforming the field of couple therapy over the past 30 years. Without EFT training, couple therapy is often ineffective. With EFT, couple therapy has...
Secure attachment is the natural way people relate to each other in safe and secure social conditions, but cannot be taken for granted.
People who practice rugged independence have an avoidant style of relating to others. While common, relating this way is not ideal.
Anxious attachment is one of three styles of coping with relationship insecurity. Anxious attachment often develops in childhood.
Take this brief quiz to find out of you are securely attached in your relationship, or if you have anxious or avoidant attachment.
When is perfectionism a positive trait, and when is it unhealthy? Is perfectionism an individual disorder or relationship strategy?
Fifty percent of first marriages end in divorce. The odds of long-term success are less in later marriages and unmarried couples. Recent advances in understanding help more couples succeed.
The story of Chris, stuck in failing relationships, is all too common. If you relate to Chris, you’re not alone.
Is being a good wife and mother of utmost importance to you? If so, here is a list of the top 5 things you can do to be the best wife and mother you can be. Exercising regularly, at least 30 minutes a day, five days a week, and getting enough sleep, usually 7-8 hours,...
Communication problems are the number one problem in relationships. Couples having trouble communicating are not alone, and can receive help.
Giving and accepting a genuine apology to someone you’ve hurt, intentionally or unintentionally, is a precious experience that builds your relationship stronger than ever. Here’s a step-by-step guide.
Four common myths about genuine apologies destroy countless opportunities to be more successful in our relationships.
Dr. Sue Johnson’s first book for consumers, Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, published in 2008, just achieved the distinction of selling over a million copies. All couples should have it on their required reading list.
Many couples are surprised and unprepared when a relationship crisis hits. The threat of divorce can be unexpected, extremely frightening, and extremely painful. This was true for Andy and Paola, who managed to find their way back to relationship happiness and security.
Emotional triggers and glimmers signal potential threats and safety in relationships. The human nervous system constantly and automatically responds to these cues. How we respond in situations depends on the state of the nervous system.
Many people ask how codependent they are in their relationship. Take this quiz to assess your level of codependency. Though codependency is a term that’s outdated in the professional field, it is still in common use. Use this quiz to increase your understanding of the term, and to assess your relationship health.
While anger is most known for being destructive to relationships, anger can be used positively to get the relationship we want.
Two best friends have different marriages. One is very happy, one average. They don’t realize how significant a difference this makes.
Becoming an adult doesn’t mean we are emotionally mature enough to successfully handle adult responsibilities. No one is emotionally mature when they reach legal age. Continuing to grow in adulthood doesn’t happen automatically, but can be supported by people we trust.
When you want to leave your marriage, it’s time to deal with it. Couple therapy can help you both understand what went wrong, heal the wounds between you, and leave you both clear to move forward in or out of the relationship.
Considering going to counseling? There are several reasons why couple counseling may be better than individual counseling.
Couples can and do survive affairs, stronger than ever. However, successfully recovering from an affair often takes professional guidance.
Emotionally Focused Therapy and Internal Family Systems are complementary models of psychotherapy. Both models bring a unique and powerful contribution to the field of psychotherapy.
When most of us picture an ideal relationship, we picture something like this: Two people who are the most important person in the world to each other, completely trusting of each other, supportive of each other’s dreams and life’s challenges, and enjoy time together...
Stories in your head try to help make sense of yourself and the world. It’s lovely when someone else gets our stories. However, our greater truth lies beneath our stories.
“My vision is to empower a world in which we can all be seen, loved, and free to love wholeheartedly.”
— Lori Marchak, LCPC, LMFT