by Lori Linseedoil Case | Sep 17, 2026 | Reflections
There are moments in session when I feel angry. On a client’s behalf, and at them, and at the whole condition of their life, all at once. I watch a woman explain herself to her husband for the third time. Watch her validate herself when she expects no one else will....
by Lori Linseedoil Case | Jul 30, 2026 | Emotionally Focused Therapy, Reflections
In therapy, it’s easy to assume that the request a client makes is the place we should begin. They ask for communication tools, conflict strategies, or better ways to respond. Yet sometimes those requests point toward something much deeper. I’ve found...
by Lori Linseedoil Case | Jul 29, 2026 | Emotionally Focused Therapy, Reflections
We often think healing begins by uncovering the emotions beneath anger. But over time, I’ve found myself noticing something that comes even before emotion. Distance. The distance someone has had to travel from themselves in order to survive. This realization has...
by Lori Linseedoil Case | Mar 10, 2026 | Reflections
A supervisee has been asking me a question for months. “How has your work with primary emotions changed?” Each time he asked, I answered partially. I spoke about cultural conditioning. About distance. About survival states. I implied that nothing, fundamentally, had...
by Lori Linseedoil Case | Feb 23, 2026 | Reflections
A supervisee recently asked me how my work with the View of Self and Other differs from what I learned in Emotionally Focused Therapy. EFT is still nestled, very close to my heart. I still trust the clarity and compassion of its map. But it’s true that, in some...
by Lori Linseedoil Case | Jan 29, 2026 | Better Together, Reflections
As 2026 begins, one of my strongest resolutions is this: to have—and own—more of my anger. I’m writing this both as a therapist and as someone who learned early to move away from anger rather than toward it. Those two voices aren’t separate for me. What I’ve learned...
