Secure attachment is one of four relationship styles outlined by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth in the 1950s and 1960s. It is the natural way people relate to each other in safe and secure social conditions. The remaining three relationship styles: anxious, avoidant,...
Roughly 25% of the population relates with an avoidant attachment style. According to attachment theory, people can cope in insecure relationships by being anxious, avoidant, or fearful-avoidant. Everybody needs to feel accepted and cared for, just as much as they...
A Bit About Attachment Theory Other scientists ridiculed John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth when they first developed attachment theory in the 1950s and 1960s. But now, most experts agree: Humans need other people as much as they need food, water, and air. More precisely,...
Take this brief quiz to assess your attachment style in your relationship. Are you securely attached? Or, do you have an anxious or avoidant attachment? If you enjoy this quiz, I’d love to hear. Here’s the link if you’d like to...
Perfectionists are those who constantly meet or demand expectations far beyond what most consider reasonable. As a result, perfectionists can appear flawless in their appearance, surroundings, or performance. In some cases, perfectionists place these harsh and...
In recent decades, half of the first marriages in the United States end in divorce. The chances a second or third marriage will last are even less. Unmarried couples in long-term committed partnerships have no better odds at long-term success. Almost all couples that...