There is no remedy for love but to love more. – Henry David Thoreau On my journey to develop skills and expertise as a therapist for individuals and couples, I read books, attended professional trainings, studied videos of master therapists, had countless hours...
“Learning to trust is one of life’s most difficult tasks.” – Isaac Watts As a therapist, have you ever considered why client parts appear in the room? I used to think parts had everything to do with the clients protecting themselves—a legacy from their...
Blaming parts can feel desperate to be seen and understood while, at the same time, they can ultimately expect to be ignored, judged, and misunderstood. Recall the blaming parts in the scene with Fred, Sheldon, and Marla: Fred sat comfortably in the therapist’s...
When people come to therapy, we help them feel safe cognitively before guiding them to experience more embodied levels of safety. Bringing much-needed support to blaming parts is a way to establish calmness and trust. In the presence of overwhelming suffering, each...
In our continuous journey to enhance therapeutic practices, I am excited to delve into a more profound method of client engagement that I have termed “Better Together.” This approach integrates the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model with the Emotionally...
These days, I work in a new and emergent way that I’ve developed over the past eight years. Over this time, I’ve moved into a more secure relationship with EFT while expanding to divergent experiential models. I’ve named this approach Better Together, which supports...
