by Lori Linseedoil Case | Jun 17, 2025 | Better Together, Emotionally Focused Therapy
“I didn’t yet understand that I was moving through a world that saw and treated me differently—and that those differences, though mostly invisible, had been shaping us all along.” I’ve spent a lot of time learning how childhood trauma and neglect shape the nervous...
by Lori Linseedoil Case | Jun 5, 2025 | Better Together
Mistrust is a gift, both to oneself and to others. In the previous post, I shared a story of a motorist whose car broke down in a snowstorm in rural Montana. After a long walk along a lonely road, he finally arrived at a ranch. Walking up to the door, he pounded and...
by Lori Linseedoil Case | Apr 21, 2025 | Better Together
“Nevermind, I don’t want your damn help, anyway!”– a man in a snowstorm, pounding on a stranger’s door I remember a story my father told me in childhood, perhaps because he rarely engaged with me that way. A man’s car broke down in a snowstorm in the middle of nowhere...
by Lori Linseedoil Case | Mar 14, 2025 | Better Together
“The burdens we carry today result from generations of living in city-states, where people either must submit to oppression, become oppressive themselves, or become complicit with oppression to survive.” In my learning journey, I’ve been surprised to discover...
by Lori Linseedoil Case | Feb 10, 2025 | Better Together
Individuals’ parts typically harbor great mistrust for each other. Protective parts are generally polarized with other protective parts. The self-like manager, usually called “Me,” busily manages and controls various parts, experienced as different voices, impulses,...
by Lori Linseedoil Case | Jan 6, 2025 | Better Together
Protective and exiled parts, as described by the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model, manage people’s burdens. They keep burdens out of conscious awareness, take back control when they overwhelm the system, and search for a path toward resolution. Unfortunately,...
