The Question I Didn’t Answer

The Question I Didn’t Answer

by | | Reflections

A supervisee has been asking me a question for months. “How has your work with primary emotions changed?” Each time he asked, I answered partially. I spoke about cultural conditioning. About distance. About survival states. I implied that nothing, fundamentally, had...
Seeing Self and Other Through a Wider Lens

Seeing Self and Other Through a Wider Lens

by | | Reflections

A supervisee recently asked me how my work with the View of Self and Other differs from what I learned in Emotionally Focused Therapy. EFT is still nestled, very close to my heart. I still trust the clarity and compassion of its map. But it’s true that, in some...
Why I’m Choosing Anger This Year

Why I’m Choosing Anger This Year

by | | Better Together, Reflections

As 2026 begins, one of my strongest resolutions is this: to have—and own—more of my anger. I’m writing this both as a therapist and as someone who learned early to move away from anger rather than toward it. Those two voices aren’t separate for me. What I’ve learned...