Not Enough and Too Much

Not Enough and Too Much

By Lori Marchak and Craig Stein We all know those inner refrains: I’m not good enough. I’m too much.They’re not random wounds. They make sense in context. For many men, the conditioned strategies of working hard, staying ahead, accommodating, and withdrawing once...
What if “Not Good Enough” is Right?

What if “Not Good Enough” is Right?

We all carry negative beliefs and accompanying strategies we picked up along the way—working to please, keeping the peace, staying calm and rational, or taking care of everyone around us.  Most of the time, we refer to the negative beliefs behind these “coping...
Beyond the Roles

Beyond the Roles

The turning points in my life have most often shown up unexpectedly. A door closes. A new path appears. Something shifts—sometimes before I have words for what’s happening. Those moments have asked me to change before I fully understood it. EFT Opened a Door for Me...
Mistrust is a gift, both to oneself and to others.

Mistrust is a gift, both to oneself and to others.

Mistrust is a gift, both to oneself and to others. In the previous post, I shared a story of a motorist whose car broke down in a snowstorm in rural Montana. After a long walk along a lonely road, he finally arrived at a ranch. Walking up to the door, he pounded and...
When Validation Backfires

When Validation Backfires

“Nevermind, I don’t want your damn help, anyway!”– a man in a snowstorm, pounding on a stranger’s door I remember a story my father told me in childhood, perhaps because he rarely engaged with me that way. A man’s car broke down in a snowstorm in the middle of nowhere...