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“Nevermind, I don’t want your damn help, anyway!”– a man in a snowstorm, pounding on a stranger’s door I remember a story my father told me in childhood, perhaps because he rarely engaged with me that way. A man’s car broke down in a snowstorm in the middle of nowhere...
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“The burdens we carry today result from generations of living in city-states, where people either must submit to oppression, become oppressive themselves, or become complicit with oppression to survive.” In my learning journey, I’ve been surprised to discover...
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Individuals’ parts typically harbor great mistrust for each other. Protective parts are generally polarized with other protective parts. The self-like manager, usually called “Me,” busily manages and controls various parts, experienced as different voices, impulses,...
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Protective and exiled parts, as described by the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model, manage people’s burdens. They keep burdens out of conscious awareness, take back control when they overwhelm the system, and search for a path toward resolution. Unfortunately,...
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We all carry the weight of enormous burdens. As a caregiver, I help clients see and understand their burdens and help provide a safe container to release them. By their very existence, I know any client parts that show up to engage with me are burdened. Burdens are...
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Wise therapy models, like Emotionally Focused Therapy and Internal Family Systems, teach us to listen more deeply while clients share their stories and the problems in their current lives. We pay close attention to the nonverbal, right-brain-to-right-brain...
